Mother/Dauther relationship

I have a really hard time in the relationship with my mother. I'm the only child. So unfortunately everything concentrates on me. It's really sad that I don't have a mother that supports me and is there for me. Oh yes, if I would ever get really sick or something like that, she would come and help out, but most of it would be about her.

Nothing is ever good enough and then she complains why I don't confide in her or why I'm not the loving and adoring daughter. Go figure....!

Whenever they come here to visit, it usually ends up in a disaster for whatever reason. She has offended Paul and me so many times that we can't remember all of it. They always want to stay with us, which is hard in itself since our house is small (1200 sqf) and only one bathroom. So they have to sleep on the futon, which would be OK if they would try to fit in and be somewhat respectful. But noooooo...when things don't go my mothers way you will know...she will sit there with this sour puss face on her and when you ask what's wrong it's "Nothing". ARghhhhhhh

It's really hard not to feel comfortable in your own house, especially with your own parents, but that's the way it is. If we don't pay enough attention to her, we get the silent treatment. YIkes....I can't take it anymore. She is also very nosey and has no problem going through our things. Another thing that drives me crazy, not that I have so much to hide. But please, I'm almost 40, do you think you can treat me like an adult and give me some privacy?

Not even talking about the hurtful things that come out of her mouth. OH well, that's a story for another day.

I sincerely hope that I will have a better relationship with my girls.