Ten reasons why I'm thinking of cutting my parents out of our lives.
1. Mom tried to ruin my wedding day. Up to the last minute we didn't know if my parents were showing up or not. The night before I was told what a big mistake I was making and they probably wouldn't come to the wedding. I had booked an appt. for her with me and my bridesmaids to get our hair and make up done. She didn't show up for that. They finally showed up right on time for pictures. My opinion? They just wanted pictures to show everybody in Germany.
2. It was a nightmare when Sidney was born. She came out, supposedly to help out. Oh my god, in the hospital she threw a fit because she didn't get to hold the baby first. When I got home with Sidney, all she did was badmouth Paul, didn't help me one bit. I almost had a nervous breakdown, and Paul finally threw her out. So she decided to leave in the middle of the night and didn't want to take a taxi, wouldn't have Paul drive her to the airport, so I had to drive her to the airport, 5 days after giving birth, and listening to her all the way to the airport what a slave I am to my husband, and she had no clue how I ended up being this person that mistreated her.
3. Before my grandfather died I flew to Germany to see him one last time. I was really close with my grandparents and knew this would be the last time for me to see him alive. The day before I was flying back I asked my mom to go with my to say good bye to my grandfather. I knew it would be one of the hardest things I ever did in my life. Her response? "No, you have to go alone, I can't deal with that drama."
4. She has told me that the only reason that my grandmother was nice to me was to get back at her because supposedly grandma hated mom so much that she used me to get back at my mother. Whatever.....
5. She continuously twists things around and never takes responsibility for anything.
6. I was told that my kids are brats and we are bad parents.
7. When I was in the hospital 2 weeks ago, they didn't find it necessary to call me. I had my cell phone with me the whole time, nothing. When I got back home I got the "oh so concerned mother speech"
8. When I was pregnant with Mackenzie I told her what name we decided on. She told me she would be too embarrassed to tell anybody that she had a new granddaughter named Mackenzie, since it was such an awful name. So she decided not to tell anybody.
9. The whole time they were here she didn't cook once. Paul and I cooked dinner most of the time. Would it have killed her???????
10. I being told all the time:" When I get old, I don't want to go into home, before I do that I will kill myself with tablets, you have to take care of me."
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Ilka! I don't know how you made it through her last vist. I would have told her a few things and I'm not one for confrontations. I'm so sorry she treats you that way!
Your mother is definitely a toxic personality. But what - you were in the hospital? You never said anything about that! I hope you're doing well and it was nothing serious.
Ilka darling, I don't know how you do it. It's not right, it's not fair and if I could I would share my Mommy with you. She is judgemental and somewhat outspoken but by golly she loves me for who I am even if she doesn't agree with some of the things I do. She on many occassions just sends cards or phone calls to tell me what a great parent I am. I am so so so sorry, I wish that you could have that relationship with your mother, however, I feel that she is a tad insane and insecure (ok a lot) and very jealous of you. So, my dear for your sanity, cut the ties and be the mother that you can be to your children, nuturing, suppportive, loving, discipling. You are an amazing Mom, wife & friend. (and I happen to love ya!)
Ilka, it would have been done at the wedding! T's parents were like that at first, but they knew better than to thwart a good pairing. I think you are one of the most wonderful, patient, accepting, loving people and Mother that I know. U so don't deserve this. Tell her u love them but they will never visit again unless they learn to respect u, your children and your home.
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